11 Types Of Lesbians

11 Types Of Lesbians

You’re Most Likely To Meet IRL

A handy guide to common lesbian (stereo)types.

Rebecca Jane Stokes

Author

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September 8, 2016

Even if you aren’t a lesbian you’ve probably heard people use descriptors like “power lesbian” or “baby dyke”. Sure, you might have an inkling of what each word means, but when taken as a whole you have no clue what those in question are talking about. Plus, as a straight person, it keep feel really disrespectful to start using words like this at all, let alone with no understanding of what we’re actually saying.

Prepare to be illuminated.

Consider this the scene in the high school movie where the new student gets a tour of the cafeteria and learns the who’s who of their new environment. Let me act as the school’s veteran pupil, as I guide you through the trenches, introducing you to the 11 types of lesbians you’re the most likely to meet, and if you’re lucky, possibly someday have sex with.

Remember, this list is a broad generalization. Every person is different, we can’t (and shouldn’t) put everyone in an easy-to-understand box. This is more of a fun and sort of silly way in which lesbians refer to one another, than some actual, real-life categorization system.

If you don’t know how to identify a person, talk to that person and find out what THEY are the most comfortable with. And know that every person is more than just a label.

1. The activist lesbian

The activist lesbian is characterized by her passion for social justice especially as it pertains to being a lesbian. Butch, femme, young, and old, the activist lesbian can look like any other type of lesbian you might meet. She’s inspirational, passionate, and a lover of justice.

2. The lipstick lesbian

A lipstick lesbian, or femme lesbian, loves to dress in a highly feminized or “girly” manner. Skirts, dresses, jewelry, lipstock, elaborate blowouts, these ladies go all out. You can find them lurking in Sephora or shopping up at a store.

3. The chapstick lesbian

The chapstick lesbian is the dividing line between a lipstick lesbian and a butch lesbian. While butch lesbians revel in looking masculine and lipstick lesbians like looking ultra girly, a chapstick lesbian can go either way. She likes dressing up, but she’s equally happy in jeans and button down.

4. The butch lesbian

The butch lesbian presents herself as tough, make-up free and masculine to one degree or another. This doesn’t mean she’s trying to look like a man, she’s just subverting your idea of what a woman should look like and looking hot as hell in the process.

5. The stone butch lesbian

A stone butch lesbian is a butch lesbian (see above) who derives sexual pleasure from giving other women pleasure. She is a giver and not a receiver, so do not under any circumstances get that noise twisted, my friends.

6. The boi lesbian

There are bois in the gay community and the lesbian community. In the lesbian community the boi lesbian is biologically female but presents as looking boyish. Bois tend to date older partners.

7. The power lesbian

The power lesbian is a lesbian with her shit together! She’s the leader in her field, the top of the tops. She’s the best surgeon, the best lawyer, the most influential policy maker. She’s all about taking on that head honcho role and crushing it. Think Tabitha Coffey.

8. The hasbian lesbian

A “hasbian” is a woman who once identified as a lesbian but now dates men and doesn’t identify themselves as being straight OR bi. They were a lesbian, now they are dating a man, and who knows what the future might hold.

9. The LUG lesbian

LUG stands for “lesbian until graduation.” This is the undergraduate lesbian-curious girl, who is finally exploring her sexuality and discovering that she is attracted to women. It could be a phase, but that’s up to them.

10. The sport dyke lesbian

The sport dyke isn’t characterized so much as being attracted to other women as much as she is obsessed with her sport of choice. Not all lesbians are sport dykes, but all sport dykes are definitely lesbians.

11. The baby dyke lesbian

The baby dyke lesbian is a fond title given to a woman who has just come out of the closet and started becoming a part of the lesbian community. She could be femme, butch, chapstick, or anything else, but for now she is characterized by her newness to the scene.

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Leigh, an eighteen-year-old lesbian is home from college for summer break, inadvertently overhears her mother’s intimate conversation with another woman.

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Leigh, a young college girl home for summer break, by accident overhears a conversation her mother has with another woman. The conversation is obviously intimate in nature and the effect it leaves on Leigh motivates her to investigate it further.

The investigation leads to the penthouse apartment of a high priced call girl, Kelsey. Impulsively, Leigh barges into the prostitute’s place and confronts her. Leigh had hoped to catch her mother with the hooker but her mother was gone. A spat breaks out between hooker and daughter and in the end, one woman is on the floor spent and panting and the other is about relates her startling tale.

Kelsey is speechless after Leigh’s revelation, and the young girl presses her advantage over the shocked woman by extorting her to perform the same service she believes her mother paid for earlier in the evening. Kelsey initially balks at the request, but Leigh makes it clear she will not take ‘no’ for an answer.

Realizing she is over a barrel; Kelsey gives in to the girl’s demands and applies her expertise to the young girl. When the girl wants further attention, Kelsey pushes back. Leigh feigns disappointment, but then catches Kelsey off guard and begins to apply her expertise on the hooker.

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ALIEN WANTS! And the wants are extreme.

ALIEN WANTS

A young earth woman is abducted by a lesbian alien, named Gash who plans to take her to her planet Arko. That trip to Arko alone proves life-changing to both females.

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A twenty something earth girl is riding her bicycle along the road when she encounters a huge object overhead accompanied by blinding bright lights. Those are the last things she remembers until she awakens on a space craft headed to a planet is some distant galaxy.

Once awake, the girl finds she is nude and has been shaved in an intimate place. Next, an extremely tall and powerfully built blue female comes into her jail cell. The blue alien, speaks amazingly good English and tells her she has been kidnapped. And is in for a long trip to the alien’s planet.

The girl learns her abductor’s name is Gash, and onboard the craft the earth girl will be assigned the name Face-303. She also learns on their way to Gash’s home planet; the girl will be loaned out as a sex slave. It is Gash’s responsibility to make sure the captive is aware of what all is entailed in being a sex slave.

The young-earth girl is poked and prodded in every opening on her body, by Gash. Her examination by Gash is meant to be a ‘road-test’ of sorts to see if she is up to the rigors of life on Arko. Gash finds the girl is more than up to the challenge and in some ways is in awe of her sexual stamina.

Things take a strange twist when the earth girl wakens from a long coma-like sleep and finds herself in some type of medical examination room. She also sees a transformed Gash and also Gash’s superior. The superior makes it clear that the earth girl, as a captive of Arko, is an insignificant waste of creative matter. Worse than gum on the bottom of a shoe. The earth girl is in a panic, and the only living being she can turn to is the big blue alien that captured her.

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A search for a housekeeper has never been such fun for Ellen… DOMESTIC SEDUCTION

A search for a housekeeper has never been such fun for Ellen…..

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Ellen Connor has assumed the position of Estate Manager in Gibraltar, when she gets there her first task is to hire a domestic housekeeper.

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Ellen Connor moved to Gibraltar at a civil service job after graduation from University. Realizing if she wanted to remain on Gibraltar, she needed to find a job in finance. She worked at several Financial Houses to gain experience and finally was awarded a position as an Estate Manager in an out of the way area near Funchal.

Her first duty as the manager is to replace the previous domestic housekeeper due to her retirement. Ellen struggles for a while finding a suitable candidate until she gets a lead on a young woman who was returning home after working on a cruise ship for several years.

Ellen interviews the young Moroccan girl, Janey Khay, and Ellen feels she is an ideal fit. The two of them seem to complement one another and this allows Ellen to focus on other necessities she must attend to; like finding a compatible lesbian lover. Pickings are slim in the small island country.

Things get interesting after that on the estate when Ellen unexpectedly walks in on Janey taking a bath. The electricity is sparked and both are charged with the sexual attraction, and for the next several weeks it becomes a cat and mouse game of which woman will seduce the other.

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8 Things Lesbians Get About Sex That Straight People Don’t

There are a million ways to make a woman orgasm, and why that frontier isn’t prioritized above space exploration I just don’t know.

by NICOLE BOYCE MAY 9, 2017

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When I say “lesbian sex,” let me be clear that I do not mean having sex while listening to Tegan and Sara or while The L Word plays in the background (unless that’s your thing, in which please email me your thoughts on season three.) And of course I know that lesbians are not perfect at sex. I’m sure there are some straight people out there having better sex than I could ever imagine (Justin Theroux and Jennifer Aniston), and some lesbians out there having the most boring sex ever (that judgmental girl I knew from summer camp). As a whole, no group of people is “better” at sex than anyone else. But based on my own critical research, aka sex with women, there are a few tips I think anyone can learn from their local Friends In Flannel and implement into their own life — no matter who they have sex with.

1. We know that sometimes mystery can be a good thing.

I’d argue that the mystery around lesbian sex (as dumb as it sometimes is) is actually quite liberating. There’s no one way that lesbians have sex, so we don’t go into it expecting to have sex the same way every time. For a lot of straight people I know, there’s an unspoken rule that sex = penetration. But lesbians don’t have that equivalent. There’s no Ikea manual on lesbian sex and this creates a lot of possibilities in bed. She could want fingers; oral; fingers and oral; a strap-on; fingers, oral and a strap-on; or none of the above. The point is that you don’t know. And anyone can treat sex this way if they don’t come in with the preconceived notion that penetration is the only way to get off. In my humble gay opinion (aka my HGO), sex is about exploring new things with your partner.

2. “Foreplay is important.” (Ellen 17:38-40)

If there were a lesbian Bible (don’t tempt me), that quote would be in it. Women understand that sex without foreplay isn’t even worth it half the time, and many a straight man has missed this memo. Without it, sex can be rushed, aggressive in all the wrong ways, and straight-up painful. So if the math works out, lesbian sex = double the foreplay! The more you and your partner work on foreplay, the better things will be during sex. It’s like when you don’t drink coffee for a few hours because you want that 3 p.m. coffee to hit you extra hard. All about the long game.

3. Sex should be all about communication.

Who started the rumor that talking was not cool? Who cursed society with that?? There’s no reward for your partner guessing what you want or you guessing what they want — just ask. Lesbian sex, or any queer sex for that matter, requires a level of communication that goes beyond the standard level of communication that straight couples have. Everyone likes to be asked what they like in bed. But lesbians basically have the question tattooed on their hand right below their favorite Rachel Maddow quote. You have to ask who is on top, who wants to give and who wants to receive, what they like to do, what they like to have done to them, how many more times, and on and on. Communication is at the center of that. Asking questions opens up a more playful and enjoyable experience for everyone. There are a million ways to make a woman orgasm, and why that frontier isn’t prioritized above space exploration I just don’t know.

4. And it should also be about communicating with yourself.

Any queer woman I know has had to do some serious introspection on their own queerness, just so they have answers for the many questions society throws at them (i.e., how did you know you were gay? Do you use a strap-on? If you like strap-ons, why don’t you just have sex with men? Well, then, who’s the man in the relationship? Etc.) We have to be pretty familiar with ourselves and what we like in order to defend that against anyone who questions it. Minus the pressure from society, this kind of introspection can be really beneficial. Anyone can benefit from exploring their own sexuality and sexual preferences in a similar way. You can only know how to tell someone what you want if you actually know what you want.

5. We know where the clit is.

And so should everyone else. Look, I don’t mean to keep hating on space exploration, but literally, as a society, we found the moon before we found the clit. I don’t care who you are or who you have sex with, you should know this.

6. Lesbians always have U-Hauls in the back of their mind.

What does a lesbian bring on the second date? A U-Haul. It’s a cliche as old as time: lesbians like to move quickly. Now, I do not recommend thinking about moving in with someone and the future silverware you will buy the first time you have sex with them, but I do think we can all learn from what’s at the center of the U-Haul proverb: emotional openness. Even if you’re with someone for purely physical reasons (which is great, you do you), it can be helpful to at least be open to some kind of emotional connection. That connection doesn’t necessarily mean you want to date your partner forever, but it puts you in a better place to feel comfortable with them and confident in your own actions in bed.

7. We know getting to orgasm is not a race.

Slow down there, most famous woman racecar driver I can think of, Danica Patrick. Why not enjoy the best thing on this earth for more than, like, a cool 45 seconds? Since lots of women tend to take longer to orgasm than men, lesbians don’t have the same speed race that some straight couples have. This isn’t timed! Teasing your partner and making them wait longer can be fun and make both of your orgasms 100x better. Women understand you shouldn’t be embarrassed if it takes you a while to orgasm. You deserve to orgasm, no matter how long it takes. I wish I learned that in high school, instead of, like, gym.

8. Lesbians don’t scissor.

This is just a reminder that lesbians don’t scissor and you shouldn’t either. No couple out there is smashing their genitals together while doing an intense side plank core exercise. Reminding people of this is my community service.

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Hannah drives nearly 100 miles to have an intimate piercing done by a female technician, Lita. The experience is made memorable by the beauty of the technician, and her quirky approach to the procedure.

The experience leaves an impression on both women, and over time the two become good friends. In Hannah’s mind, there is hope for a romance, but she fears that Lita’s feelings are much more frivolous than her own. Lita’s a woman who lives for the moment.

During their long-distance friendship, Hannah usually goes to Lita’s place, because she lives in a big city and there is more to do socially. Eventually, though, Lita agrees to come to visit Hannah and it has Hannah on pins and needles getting ready for Lita’s visit.

The visit is enjoyable, yet Lita decides she wants to do more than dance, as Hannah suggests, and comes up with something a bit more physical and radical. The horseplay that Lita suggests ends up being just as quirky as the session where she gave Hannah her piercings. Leaving Hannah to wonder if Lita is just teasing her and is not into relationships; or is it something else?

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Says Leaving Entertainment Helped With Her Sexuality

“I push myself aside so much to make sure that my career is on point that I don’t always take care of my mental health”

BY TAYLOR HENDERSON

JULY 09 2020 12:35 PM EDT

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Last month, actress and child star Raven-Symoné revealed to the world that she married girlfriend Miranda Pearman-Maday.

“I got married to a woman who understands me from trigger to joy, from breakfast to midnight snack, from stage to home,” she shared on Instagram. “I love you Mrs. Pearman-Maday! Let’s tear this world a new a-hole.”

Notoriously private, Symoné’s wedding was a pleasant surprise to fans everywhere. In a new interview, the 34-year-old actress revealed why she decided to talk about her wedding publicly.

“Despite being someone who has kept my personal life private, I decided to share this moment because it’s one of the biggest and happiest of my life,” Raven-Symoné told People. “Miranda makes me feel confident and empowered in an entirely new way. We planned our ceremony together and it was a true reflection of our love and partnership.”

“I get to make new plans with a brilliant woman, and we get to create an empire for ourselves,” she added. “We get to map out our future in ways that we want.”

Symoné then opened up about her time in the industry and revealed why she stayed in the closet for so long. “My whole life is kind of based on what the industry wants,” she explained. “Other people controlled my hair, my eyebrows, my clothing, my words, everything.”

When she opened up about her sexuality in 2016, Symoné said she thought she would never come out. She says she spent much of her life just following what she thought she was supposed to do.

“I just remember an older person in my life saying, ‘Oh my gosh, that guy’s so cute. Look at him. That’s the kind of person you should be with. I’m like, ‘Yeah, he’s so cute, right?’ I was playing the role.”

She’s still figuring out how to stay true to herself even today. “I push myself aside so much to make sure that my career is on point that I don’t always take care of my mental health. I’m still growing into who I am and still figuring it out.”

A break from the industry in 2013 let her explore who she is and what she wants. “What it did was help me with my sexuality,” Symoné explained. “I actually had time to think for myself and no one to tell me differently. It helped me realize that I’m kind of addicted to the industry because of the fact I had been in it for so long. I had to transform that addiction into something that is positive for me because I was getting very toxic to myself and others.”

On her upcoming album, The Reintroduction, Symoné is ready to show the many different layers to her. “It’s a weight off my shoulders,” she reflected. “If you really dive into the songs and read between the lines and all the things inside, I’m releasing anger, pain and grudges towards the entertainment industry, myself and others.”

And Symoné had some encouraging words for anyone struggling with their sexuality or identity. “It gets better. Just stick with it. Hang in there, bro, you’ll be fine.”

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It is one of the commandments…LOVE THY NEIGHBOR!

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Morgan Dorn and Courtney Russell are neighbors and two typical housewives with inattentive husbands. They complain to each other constantly about their husband’s lack of bedroom skills. Wishing to not settle for a ‘wham bam thank you mam’ out of their husbands the girls exchange ideas.

First off, Courtney shows her neighbor her new sexy outfit to start. Next, she pulls out all stops and shows her a sex toy. Courtney goes on to tell her friend has it came into her possession and the thought it leaves with Morgan is quite penetrating. The more she dwelled upon the apparatus, the more her attitude about her approach to sex changes.

Things come to a head after Morgan had availed herself of her neighbor’s toy, and Courtney shows up to help her over any hang-ups she might have. The two housewives learn a thing or two about each other they didn’t know before, and that knowledge brings the two closer than ever.

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She came for dinner she was served a… FORBIDDEN FEAST!

FORBIDDEN FEAST

It’s a dark cold snowy night and Christine Rock is about to go to bed when she gets a call from one of her daughter’s High School friends who has just been in a car accident.

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Christine is a divorced forty-something mother of a college-age daughter. She is alone at home, on a dark, cold snowy night, and is about to turn in for the evening when she gets an unexpected phone call. It’s from Hayley an old high school friend of her daughter Lauren.

Hayley called to tell Lauren that she had been in an accident and was asking for her help. Unfortunately, Lauren had returned to college from winter break leaving Hayley in a bind and Christine on the hook. Christine, ever the Good Samaritan, gets dressed and goes to the aid of the young girl.

When she arrives, it seems the police want to charge the young girl with a DUI. Christine to the rescue convinces the senior officer to give Hayley a break, but not without a quid pro quo to be paid later! Christine takes the shaken girl back to her home because of the severe weather and she spends the night.

During her brief stay, Hayley and Christine connect quickly and have an enjoyable conversation until the wee hours of the night. In their conversation, Hayley reveals that she is a lesbian and is an outcast to her parents. Something Christine finds unimaginable.

The next day, Hayley with the weather better, leaves and heads back to her place. Upon reflection, Christian realizes she is fascinated by the younger girl and decides to invite her over for dinner. The dinner is enjoyable and over an expensive bottle of wine, their inhibitions come down and both women let it be known they are attracted to the other.

Christine is torn about the propriety of a relationship with one of her daughter’s friends and the fact she has never been with a woman. Her indecision however doesn’t last long.

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15 Lesbian myths that are rampant.

15 Ridiculous Lesbian Myths that You Probably Still Believe

Lesbian myths are rampant, especially around people who don’t know any better. Are you content to stay in ignorance or do you want the truth?

There are so many hilarious lesbian myths even in this age and time, and they just won’t go away. They are so numerous that I need to write sequels or an entire trilogy just to cover every lesbian myth in existence. Others would refer to these myths as lesbian stereotypes. A lesbian stereotype is a pre-conceived notion about lesbians and their way of life that isn’t always true but is perceived as truth by many.

Whether it is called myth or stereotype, both tend to limit how everyone views lesbians and the lives we lead. I am not quite sure where all this nonsense came from, but I think that debunking the long list of misconceptions that already exist is one of the biggest challenges to making people better understand the LGBT issues.

This piece is intended to shed some light on some of the most common myths I personally encountered. I’d like to believe that not only are these myths false, they are also mean and annoying. Of course, I cannot possibly speak for everyone and maybe it’s just me, but I think Lesbos are really tired of hearing people say all these ridiculous bits of misinformation. Come on ladies! ‘Lesbe’ honest and tell me I’m right!

The truth about these ridiculous myths

Well, regardless of your take on this, below are some of the myths that are unfortunately prevalent within our culture, and along with them are the corresponding facts dispelling them. Feel free to browse through the list and see for yourself!

#1 Myth: Lesbians can’t become and remain as Christians.

Truth: Since when is Jesus a “members-only club?” I’d like to believe that faith has nothing to do with orientation. Personal belief is an intimate connection between you and your God that only the two of you can understand. It is not about organized practices or dogmas. It’s about his message and his message is simple, LOVE.

As long as we hold Christ close in our hearts and we offer him everything we have, he’ll be more than okay to welcome us. Gratefully, at present, there are many denominations, faith groups and churches that accept all humans, regardless of any differences. But if all else fails, remember that He showers compassion to all his creation. He is of great mercy and He will understand.

#2 Myth: Lesbians recruit because they cannot propagate.

Truth: This whole gay recruitment agenda is heresy. I am looking at you, Uganda! I am sorry to disappoint kids, but we don’t have a euro savings account or stacks of gold bars to fund all these recruitment and membership-for-cash advertisements. Lesbians are never interested to any form of conversion. Unless hypnotism is used or lesbian magic dust exists, I don’t think that a change in sexual preference is something we can talk you into.

#3 Myth: Lesbians are fat and ugly women who can’t find men.

Truth: Excuse me, can you say that again?! FYI lesbians aren’t lesbians because they couldn’t get a man. The truth is they don’t want men in the first place. If there was even a grain of truth that men don’t find us attractive, then some of us wouldn’t be married before coming out, to begin with.

I am not saying that none of us are fat or ugly, but it’s not like we’re all fat and ugly, and straight girls are all pretty and hot. Lesbians, like heterosexuals, come in different shapes and sizes. For my part, I find straight women equally hot, but I’d say lesbians are on a whole different level if you know what I mean *wink*.

#4 Myth: Lesbians often tend to get emotionally attached too easily.

Truth: This myth springs from the invention of the urban slang ‘u-haul lesbians’ named after a brand of rental trucks. According to Urban Dictionary, these are lesbians who, after their first date, tend to move in with that person right away. This stereotype syndrome has been disfavored, and it’s considered unhealthy by many. However, this immediate “urge to merge” issue is simply dead wrong. Mind you, we can wait until the third date!

Although some of us jump quickly into relationships and move in together after a short period of dating, it doesn’t mean that ALL lesbians literally drag a u-haul truck or a suitcase to their second date. That’s ridiculous! For what it’s worth, most of us still think that the dating stage is an essential part of building a strong relationship. Anyway, you can’t blame us if girls find us more expressive and nurturing, that they easily want to live with us for good. Envy much?

#5 Myth: Lesbians never miss The Ellen DeGeneres Show.

Truth: This one might be true. However, we don’t watch Ellen because she’s gay, we watch her because she’s freaking entertaining! Besides, who doesn’t watch Ellen? Its world record of at least 3 million viewers per episode speaks for itself! In fact, the show has won a total of 33 Daytime Emmy Awards, need I say more?

#6 Myth: Lesbians stay friends with all their exes.

Truth: False. This may be true for some, but definitely not for all. I remember this e-card I saw over the internet that says “your ex asking to stay friends after you broke up is like kidnappers asking to stay in touch after they let you go.”

This note may be plain humorous, but if you think about it, it actually makes a lot of sense. Like every normal person, we are not comfortable bumping into or hanging out with an ex-lover, unless of course, if we’re emotionally stuck. But that’s a whole new article to write about. [Read: 14 things to keep in mind when you run into an ex]

#7 Myth: Lesbians dress alike.

Truth: Am I missing something here? If this is true, I guess I have to call FedEx because I haven’t received my uniform yet. Oddly enough, lesbians can pretty much wear whatever they feel like. We have a different choice of wardrobe, and we like different girls and different everything. Well, if you are of the same size and style as your partner, then lucky you for being able to match outfits. But that doesn’t happen all the time.

#8 Myth: All lesbians look like… lesbians.

Truth: Ugh! Yeah, like we all share the same stylist and hairdresser, and buy all our clothes at once. And we have this universal calendar where we plot what to wear, how to look and when. We also Viber each other every morning to make sure everybody looks the same as if in the military. Seriously! Are these things even possible?

#9 Myth: Lesbians know all lesbians.

Truth: Newsflash: We haven’t done the official lesbian headcount and we don’t intend to. Really. What made you think we keep a directory of all lesbians in town? I mean I know a few, but I haven’t met the other 608,636,342 lesbians all over the world or the 9,567 lesbians in my hometown, so quit asking if I know “her.”

#10 Myth: That we all suffer from Lesbian Bed Death.

Truth: A sociologist claimed that committed lesbian couples have less sex than hetero couples. I wish I can give him my finger, but I’ll just say that it’s a big fat, lie. Lesbian bed death isn’t real. It is a misnomer, a myth and it will remain as such for all eternity.

Lesbians love sex and we cannot even imagine a sexless future. Sure, we might be like frisky bunnies in the beginning and our bedroom habits may slow down a bit over the years, or perhaps we may prefer to enjoy each other with clothes on for a while. But isn’t it the same with long-term straight relationships? And if lesbians go easy on the bedtime eventually, maybe in the next Jurassic age, is it really just because we are gay? [Read: 10 naughty ways to get rid of a sexual dry spell]

#11 Myth: “The L Word” is a real-world portrayal of lesbian lifestyle

Truth: Duh. That’s why there is “The Real L Word” show, right? Don’t get me wrong, because I love the show. I am such a fan who is torn between wanting to be Shane or Bette. However, the L Word isn’t a perfect depiction of how lesbians live their lives.

At best, it only showed how diverse the lesbian population is, and how unique we are, even compared to our fellow lesbians. It is no more than a fictionalized story meant to entertain viewers and keep the ratings high.

#12 Myth: Lesbians love to flaunt their sexuality.

Truth: Actually, we do not flaunt it, you just love watching us! On a serious note, contrary to popular belief, it is a fact that we are not granted this privilege in most places on earth. So, the flaunting accusation is a bit farfetched. Maybe in the United States or in Amsterdam but there are 195 more countries all over the world, and out of this number, there are 79 countries where homosexuality is illegal. I am not good at Math, but the figures tell us otherwise. Best of all, how come nobody complains when heterosexuals try to eat each other’s face off along the sidewalk?

#13 Myth: Lesbians are into pets.

Truth: Everybody is into pets. My neighbor is into cats, and she’s a straight 70-year-old housewife. My dad loves birds, but obviously, he’s straight. Since when did pets become gender-sensitive? If this is so, do we need a lesbian veterinarian too, every time our pets throw up and get sick?

#14 Myth: Lesbians grew up in a broken family or with an abusive father or a homophobic Uncle.

Truth: Possibly. But I think you are just watching too many soap operas and reading too many novels, that you are seeing and imagining things. You should consider switching channels.

#15 Myth: Lesbians are attracted to all women.

Truth: Wrong! We are only attracted to all HOT women! Kidding aside, just because we are lesbians doesn’t mean we are attracted to every chick we see. Most of us are insanely picky too. Have you ever wondered why we ain’t hittin’ on ya?

There are so many more lesbian myths to disprove, but unfortunately, we don’t have the luxury to put them all to death one by one. May this article serve its purpose well. May this list not only give you a good laugh but also encourage you to get to know us better instead of boxing us up into a pre-formed idea of who we are. And may you begin seeing us in the same light as any ordinary human being.