Rule 34 of the internet states “If it exists, there’s porn for it.” So when Angie Rowntree started the female-friendly porn studio Sssh back in 1999, she gained some unprecedented insight into a group oft-overlooked in matters of sex and pleasure. Yeah, women.
“Anybody who expects there to be a standard set of genres which appeal to women, or who thinks there’s a convenient and defined answer to what women want in or from porn, would be surprised by how varied and ranging women’s taste in porn actually is,” she told AlterNet. “For many years, what the industry got wrong was believing there was no female audience for their products in the first place.”
In the 16 years since its launch, the site has become one of the web’s premiere porn-for-women platforms. According to Rowntree, most of her female members chose to log on alone.
Women, certainly, are not all alike when it comes to what turns them on. But some erotic interests fall under an umbrella that extends a little shade to everyone.
We reached out to Rowntree to help us sort through what those common interests might be. Check out the list below.
1. Our own pleasure.
“The single most popular depiction is something we term ‘female-focused foreplay,’ specifically foreplay involving a male partner,” says Rowntree. “What [the mainstream industry] often doesn’t do is emphasize the pleasure or enjoyment of the female characters; when it comes to the sex, it’s still primarily concerned with the masculine point of view and depicting sex acts which appeal to male fantasies.”
According to Rowntree, most mainstream flicks lack a specific focus on female pleasure. “The woman’s pleasure, her enjoyment, needs to matter, however it is being depicted or derived,” she says.
That insight might help explain some user trends unfolding on other platforms. Pornhub’s lesbian category is reported to be a leading favorite among female viewers. According to their analytics team the “for Women” category is 193% more likely to be searched by a woman than by a man. And if you thought that was an impressive stat, give this one a once-over: women are 900 percent more likely to search for the phrase “eating pussy” than men.
2. Kinky stuff.
“In the years since 50 Shades became a hit, we’ve seen a dramatic rise in interest in BDSM,” says Rowntree. “I think this is about more than just the popularity of the book, though; it’s also driven by the anonymity and privacy of the internet environment, which allows people to explore their sexuality more confidently and openly. I also think 50 Shades made it more acceptable for people to talk about women as consumers of erotica and porn.”
Susan Wright, founder/president of a sexual rights organization called the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, once told AlterNet, “Being submissive is very compatible with feminism because it is choosing your own form of sexual expression. In the end, sexuality is empowering—and you can empower people in all the diverse ways that they enjoy sexuality. Power exchanges are one of those ways.”
Back at the Pornhub analytics blog, we find women to be 80-100% more likely to click on extra-explicit categories like hardcore, rough-sex, double penetration, and gangbang than men.
3. Something real(ish).
Though she introduced this bit as a “sweeping generalization,” Rowntree explained that one of the starkest contrasts between male and female porn habits revolves around the idea of connectivity. “From where I sit…women tend to want there to be more of a connection between the performers, whereas men are largely in it strictly for the sex acts depicted.”
In reference to the mainstream scene, Rowntree says, “A lot of scenes seem to go from the first kiss to full-blown intercourse in about 90 seconds.”
“I’m not suggesting that in order for a woman to enjoy a porn movie, the characters all have to be fully developed, or depicted in the context of a loving relationship, or anything like that,” she added. “I just mean women want to see more of a connection between the performers themselves, not necessarily the characters.”
4. The concept of mutuality.
“Women want to see more mutual enjoyment, pleasure and authenticity,” says Rowntree. “Porn in which the woman is a full and willing participant, rather than watching a woman who seems like she’s only there to give the man, or multiple men, something to penetrate. Unless, of course, that is what she enjoys.”
The desire to view something that depicts more mutuality is a growing trend.
“The most heartening thing I’ve seen in the years since I launched Sssh is a transition from women seeking feedback and information focused on pleasing their partner to women being interested in enhancing their own pleasure,” Rowntree said. “They’re putting their own enjoyment on the same level as their partner’s.”
Bobbi is in a relationship with Joanna, and during one of their hotter sessions together Bobbi hits on a theory about sexuality that may change the roles human males and females assume. This theory transcends heterosexuality and homosexuality, if proven true one of the human genders may be rendered useless.
A few ad hoc experiments with the slutty duo of Charmaine and Kit and followed up with a wet time in the hot tub with Mary Ann her neighbor, Bobbi is convince she has to test her theory using a controlled situation and prove she can provide better results than any man in satisfying a woman.
She uses her neighbor Mary Ann to pick up an attractive woman and using a tiny bit of subterfuge Bobbi dives into her work and initiates her hypothesis. What she and Mary Ann discover is Earth shaking. When the test subject, Kimberly is debriefed she is amazed but surprisingly accepts the results and is in love with Bobbi.. That now puts Bobbi in a pickle since she is already in a relationship with Joanna.
Yup, it was 10’s across the board for Siwa and Johnson, who have been scoring very highly in previous weeks. Prior to last night, competitors Amanda Kloots (of The Talk) and Alan Bersten held the honor of having this season’s highest score (a 39 out of 40), but they were overthrown thanks to Siwa and Johnson nailing a flawless 40 out of 40 with their Grease-themed foxtrot — and we love to see it!
“When I came here week one, I came here in full pants, a full hoodie, a full jean jacket. I was very self-conscious about myself,” Siwa said in a confessional snippet before her and Johnson’s epic routine, saying Johnson “gave me the confidence and the courage to be more okay with myself.”
“WOW!!!!! I have literally no words!!!!” Siwa wrote in an Instagram post earlier this morning following the news she and Johnson received all 10’s from the DWTS judges table. “I am on cloud 528183629 right now!! Tonight [Jenna Johnson] and I got the FIRST perfect score of the season on [Dancing With the Stars]!! 4 10’s!!! I’ve cried and smiled SO much tonight. The amount of respect that I have for all 4 judges [Derek Hough], [Carrie Ann Inaba], [Bruno Tonioli], and [Leonard Goodman] is massive so to get a perfect 10 from all 4 of them tonight means SO much to me!!!”
“To be a part of [Dancing With the Stars] is something that I’ve always dreamed of… and now…. This is my reality!!!! I’m SO so so appreciative for [Jenna Johnson] for not only being the best mentor/pro for the last 7 weeks, but also being the best friend. I’ve been through thick and thicker in the last few weeks and she’s been there for me every second that I need her to be!! This show would not be the same with anyone else! Tonight we shared the story of OUR friendship that we’ve gained over the last few weeks and I couldn’t be happier. This dance and this moment is something that I will cherish forever and EVER!!!!!!! I cried in the beginning, middle, and end of this performance. And I’m crying again now! Happy tears and sad (because this nights over). Thank you all for voting once again this week!!! I appreciate you guys supporting me and Jen through this entire journey.”
Sophia is a reluctant ballet student until her personal instructor discovers her weakness for spankings and domination.
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Sophia, is taking ballet lessons for the sole purpose of physical conditioning. Her heart is not interested in learning to be a ballerina and her instructor Magda becomes frustrated because she feels the spoiled brat is wasting her time, and her father’s money.
Magda tries everything to goad the teen into trying harder with little success. Then, more out of desperation than anger, Magda swats the sexy teen on her behind. The results were not at all what Magda or Sophia were expecting. Magda picks up on the reaction her student has and realizes Sophia in into being paddled.
Unknown to either one, the spanking opened up a Pandora’s Box, and lasciviously erotic fallout soon creates a Domme Sub situation and both women learn something about themselves that up until the spanking neither was aware of. The women’s lust carries over and draws Magda’s assistant into their debauchery
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Queer folks in Manila have a new reason to celebrate this week, as Miss Universe Philippines has crowned its first-ever LGBTQ+ winner, Beatrice Luigi Gomez.
During the preliminary interview, Gomez, who represented Cebu City, shared that she’s been in a longterm same-sex relationship with her partner. She also expressed her confidence that the Philippines was ready for an out and proud member of the LGBTQ+ to represent them at the Miss Universe pageant. As it turns out, she was correct.
It was a big moment for Gomez, her country, and her supporters, who were thrilled to see queer “herstory” being made. Many took to Twitter to celebrate the big moment.
Gomez was reportedly considered a bit of an underdog, but she beat out 27 other competitors to win the crown and title. She also won the evening gown and swimsuit portions of the evening.
That the Philippines is making strides in the representation of LGBTQ+ individuals shouldn’t come as too much of a surprise. According to a study entitled “The Global Divide on Homosexuality” that was conducted by the Pew Research Center in 2013, the Philippines ranked in the top 10 most gay-friendly countries in the world. That same study showed that 73 percent of adult Filipinos agreed that “homosexuality should be accepted by society.”
Gomez is now set to represent her home country in the 70th Miss Universe pageant being held in Eilat, Israel in December. If she wins, it will mark the fifth time a contestant from the Philippines has taken home the crown.
Laurie learns her mother is about to leave her father for her lesbian lover, she has a meltdown and calls her mother and her lover Sydney all sorts of vicious names, and declares she despises all people that are lesbian.
Months after her mother moved out and settled in with her new partner, Laurie went out of her way to cause trouble for her mother and her lover. Her mother accepts her daughter is upset and feels she will out grow it. But her lover Sydney is not so understanding.
The angry girl, learns that Sydney is not really faithful to her mother and that makes things even worse. Before Laurie can blow the whistle on Sydney, Sydney and her lover take matters into their own hands and teach the young girl a painful lesson. Certain that she will butt out Sydney’s affairs.
Not easily deterred, Laurie tells her mother about the affair Sydney is having, and as a result Sydney plans to set the girl straight by scarring her nearly to death, subjecting her to horrible humiliation, and exact her revenge in the most debauched manner she can think off.
Political intrigue, sex, and domination all seem to follow the crafty and voluptuous secret agent Chandelier. This time she is matching wits with two equally talented spies; Jacqueline code name ‘KitCat’ and Melany code name ‘Bunny’
Sleeping with a Goddess
Two girls meet at closing time at their gym. Tanya an impressive black girl at nearly six feet, and Tina a sexy red head. Tanya offers Tina a lift home and Tina anxiously accepts obviously having ulterior motives. But before they get to Tina’s both have learned quite a bit about each other.
Please! I Give up! Please Stop!
A very sadistic Dominatrix finds pleasure in playing one slave against the other when they aren’t giving her pleasure.
Lesbian Sex Addict
Debbie has a preoccupation with everything related to sex and engaging with more partners to satisfy her urge yet unable to control her thoughts, which can often times lead to some type of sexual debauchery
A Dominant Submissive
A symbiotic lifestyle of domination and submission becomes tenuous as the once firm connections unravels
Hot Spots & Damp Spots, Soft & Hard Spots
Jane Fawkes is teaching Shelly Morris how to be a witch, and in doing so both become attracted to each other. But their happiness is cut short when Jane unexpectedly dies from an experiment gone wrong. This leaves Shelly confused and vulnerable.
Revenge-The Last Laugh
Four friends, a lot of booze, and heated argument out of control are the components of situation where in the end only one woman gets her revenge.
An Unheeded Warning
Cady is a recent college graduate; she used her inherited money to buy a condo and decided to celebrate her new independence with a before she starts her new job at her Aunt Janis’ medical research lab
A friend to breed is a friend indeed,” or however the saying goes. For those of us who find ourselves floating through the banal purgatory between romantic relationships while simultaneously feeling exhausted by the tumultuous roller coaster of casual dating, it can be comforting to find stability in a regular fucking. Therein lies the beauty of an adored fuck-buddy, where the relationship is rooted solely in the purpose of sex, with no expectations for further intimacies outside of the allotted dick(pussy)-appointment time slot.
Without putting too much significance on labels when it comes to human sexuality, it is important to first spell out the difference between a fuck-buddy and a “friends with benefits.” Friends with benefits refers to two pre-existing friends who, in addition to enjoying the regular social activities that come with friendship, consciously choose to participate in sexual intercourse with one another without expanding into something more romantic and intimate. A fuck-buddy, on the other hand, refers to an individual with whom the foundation of your relationship is based solely on sexual rendezvous without branching out into something more emotionally intimate such as a romantic partnership or platonic friendship – simply put, it’s someone you enjoy hooking up with but who is also cool to chat with as well. In essence, a fuck-buddy is almost more of an acquaintance with benefits.
For those of you who are reading this and re-evaluating your current standings with your recurring sexual partners, here’s the easiest way to think of it: if you view the partner in question as more of a pal you love spending time with but also enjoy having the occasional romp with, that is a friend with benefits. If it is someone whose company you strongly enjoy but only see within the confines of a bedroom/living room/kitchen/stairwell of the Ryerson library/wherever else spontaneous sex may occur, that is what we call a fuck-buddy.
What if you’re reading this and thinking, “But wait a minute, Jesse. I know someone who I hook up with a lot and have weekend-long sleepovers with, but we also sometimes hang out one-on-one for walks and dinner where we don’t even have sex. What’s that called?” Congratulations, my friend, you have just found out you are dating someone. Please prepare them a lovely shrimp alfredo for dinner this weekend, and introduce them to your mother already.
Frankly, many single people are not ready to be in a serious relationship at this given moment in their lives, whether because of their hectic work life, their current emotional state, or simply because they can’t even understand themselves so certainly can’t expect another person to figure them out. But with that being said, the hoe life is also not for the faint of heart (or sphincter). Mercurial promiscuity carries with it a draining exhaustion from the chronically repetitive cycle of small talk, having to answer what you’re “into,” and synchronizing of each other’s schedules to determine when you are both mutually free to meet up. And that’s before you even get to the fun exhaustion!
So therein lies the question: where are single people expected to find their sought-after intimacy? Are affection, tenderness, physical pleasure, sensuality and erotic excitement privileges awarded only to those who are fortunate enough to have found a kindred spirit, while the rest of us continue to search for ours? Is loneliness not a harrowing enough affliction to bear that it must also be married by relentless horniness?
What makes the dalliance of a fuck-buddy relationship so fantastical is the simplistic bond over sharing the gift of erotic pleasure with another person without the peripheral expectations that may come from a romantic relationship or a friends with benefits situation. Instead, it offers a rare freedom for two individuals to test the boundaries of their sexual imagination with a partner with whom they have established a supportive trust. This can be a wonderful opportunity for individuals to redefine their own sexual identity in ways they had not dared before: for tops to practice bottoming; for subs to explore being dominant; for cum-dumpster pig-bottoms to actually cuddle for once. All of that can vastly expand one’s sexual repertoire and sense of identity as a sensual being, which will lead to being a significantly better sexual partner for future relationships down the line.
What perhaps is most vital from a fuck-buddy relationship is the testing of setting and understanding boundaries with one another not just as sexual partners but as respectful adults. While their role in your life may be solely for your own sexual gratification, your fuck-buddy is in fact an actual human being with their own lives outside of the confines of your boudoir. They’re not just a piece of meat (even if they like it when you call them that during sex).
As with all relationships, consistent communication is the backbone of a healthy fuck-buddy dynamic, to ensure that you are both on the same page and that both parties understand the expectations within the relationship. Too often people see the role of a fuck-buddy as a stepping stone before evolving into a more serious romantic connection – which is definitely possible – but if that’s what you think, it is imperative to make sure your partner is of the same understanding. Otherwise, you are essentially Joseph Gordon-Levitt’s character in 500 Days of Summer, who (as Twitter discourse likes to remind us every six months) is actually the real villain of that film!
Sadly, it must also be remembered that fuck-buddy relationships are inherently finite and must eventually reach their post-climax conclusion. Whether it’s because one of you begins a serious relationship with another person, or the passion runs out between the two of you, or things just get too complicated (and don’t think that can’t happen because it’s “just” hooking up), it eventually comes time to stop getting up to get them a towel and to just throw in the towel already.
Most people are surprised at just how devastating this separation can feel, but why shouldn’t it be? You felt sad when your favorite barista at the Starbucks on your block transferred to another location on the other side of town, so why wouldn’t you feel bummed at the loss of someone who made you cum on the regular? Your fuck-buddy was someone your brain associated with feelings of immense pleasure and excitement for a lengthy period of time, and it’s practically impossible for you to feel a withdrawal of serotonin from never again feeling the titillating buzz in your pocket from their “come over” text trickling through your phone up your thigh. You’re allowed to feel sad that someone you didn’t see yourself having a future with isn’t in your present anymore.
Ultimately, some people are meant to come into our lives for a good time and not a long time. Whether they were a placeholder until something more serious came along, or a sense of comfort when you sought the warm embrace of another person’s touch, or just someone who could write the lyrics to “O Canada” on your asshole with their tongue, our fuck-buddies brought something into our lives that we needed most at that moment. Often they’re some of the more overlooked characters in our lives, who will not be mentioned during stories told to our grandchildren or immortalized in safe-for-work photos together, but they are nonetheless people who we established a rare kinship with on the basis of trust, respect and intimacy. They allowed us to be free and to feel beautiful while we were with them, and requested only that we do the same. After all, a fuck-buddy who isn’t your buddy is just a real fucker.
One Saturday Olivia called Jordyn asking for help for a fund raiser, like they used to have when they were in high school. The event had the cheerleaders sell tickets get let people throw baseballs to dunk the bikini clad girl in the dunking tank.
Jordyn, unsuspecting anything, quickly agrees to help her friend. She picks Jordyn up at her house and takes her to a place on the other side of town and is met by two girls Jordyn recognized from high school.
When the two girl get out of the car, Jordyn notices that Olivia is not wearing anything below the waist except for a donkey tail painfully insert into her backside. The two girls that met them Kelly and Trish roughly lead the girls into the house and Jordyn finally realizes the ruse she has fallen for.
Kelly and Trish are dominant lesbians and they coerced Olivia into getting Jordyn to come to their place. There obviously wasn’t any fund raiser, and Jordyn and her friend were about to be the submissive playthings for the two scheming lesbians.