Some women find an orgasm impossible to achieve, and there may be a physical reason for it.
Women and orgasm: the discussions go on and on. Orgasm is such a mystery in women and science is continually trying to figure it out.
Rather amazingly, up to 80% of women have trouble experiencing orgasm exclusively from vaginal intercourse. This means that almost all women need some kind of extra stimulation to reap any kind of pleasure-filled result, when having sex.
And to make matters more daunting, a study from 2014 published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that the size and place of a woman’s clitoris matters. Women blessed to be born with a larger clitoris placed closer to the vagina found it easier to achieve orgasm.
How did researchers study such an elusive thing? They used magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) technology to scan the pelvic area of 30 women in their 30s. A third of these women reported trying to orgasm but never having achieved any results, and the rest had regular orgasmic experiences during sex, whether through clitoral stimulation or not.
The researchers measured the size and alignment of the women’s anatomy and found the discrepancies. The women who found it impossible to orgasm had a distance between their clitoris and their vaginal opening that was 5 to 6 mm longer than the other women, and they also had a smaller clitoris size, on average.
Why these things matter when it comes to piles of pleasure during sex is something that researchers can’t yet answer. The clitoris has so many nerve endings packed in a tiny space, and scientists are guessing that maybe women with a smaller clitoris have fewer nerve endings there.
Kendall, a twenty something nurse, rent an apartment from Samantha and her husband. The two woman become friends and soon Samantha invites the young girl to a cook out to meet Sam’s husband’s brother. Kendall lays the bombshell at Samantha’s feet and tells her no, she doesn’t date men, and that she is a lesbian.
Married Samantha rents an apartment to young nurse Kendall. Samantha learns of Kendall’s lesbian lifestyle, and slowly the idea of the young girls lifestyle has Samantha obsessing over Kendall even to the point of watching her with her various partners which causes Sam to question her own sexuality.
Several month pass and Kendall continues to parade her girlfriends through the apartment, under the lustful eye of Samantha. When things seem to be getting most intense, Sam volunteers to accompany Kendall to a dance the young nurse has been anticipating for quite some time. Sam’s offer is a bit disconcerting at first but left with no other choice Kendall agrees to let her come with her.
Samantha surprises Kendall when she first sees her adorned in her fancy dress and the young girl wonders if there is more to Samantha than meets the eye. At the dance Sam sees many of the lusty playmates that Kendall has been entertaining over the past several months and thinks she is nothing more than a 5th wheel in Kendall’s eyes. But the evening in not over and before it is both the young nurse and the mature housewife will have an earth shattering experience.
Kathy Belge is a writer and coauthor of Lipstick & Dipstick’s Essential Guide to Lesbian Relationships and Queer: The Ultimate LGBT Guide for Teens.
Updated September 25, 2017
What are some signs you might be a lesbian? Is there a test to see if you are a lesbian or not? When you are questioning your sexuality and wondering if you are a lesbian or not, you may be hoping there are certain signs that will help you figure it out. Although this is not a sure-fire test, if you experience three or more of these eight signs, you might be a lesbian. It’s worth investigating further.
These are a few signs that you might be a lesbian or bisexual. Of course, there is no 100% sure way to tell. Discovering your sexual orientation takes time and self-exploration. Be patient with yourself and give yourself the time you need to figure it out.01of 08
When You’re On a Date with a Guy, You’re Thinking About Your Female Best Friend
You seek out girls and women for friendships, conversations, support, and fun. All of your best friends are women, except maybe a few sensitive or gay men.05of 08
You’ve Questioned Your Sexuality
You’ve asked yourself “Am I a lesbian?” “Am I gay?” “Am I bisexual?” If you’re asking yourself these questions, it’s a sign that you could be lesbian or bisexual. People who are not attracted to the same sex don’t tend to ask themselves if they are gay or not.06of 08
You’ve Fallen in Love with a Woman
You’ve had a relationship with a woman and it was great. It’s over now and so you don’t know if it was a one-off thing or if you’re a lesbian for real. If you’ve had one relationship with a woman, chances are you have the capability to fall in love with a woman again, even if you’ve dated men before or since.07of 08
Lesbian Love Stories Get to You
You get tingly feelings when you read lesbian romance or watch lesbian romantic movies. When you watch a romantic movie or read a lesbian romance novel, you feel something deep inside when the couple kisses for the first time. You imagine yourself in a similar situation and it makes you feel happy and good inside. You have a sense of longing that echoes that of the heroines of the romance.08of 08
You’ve Kissed a Girl and You Liked It.
Although you don’t need to have kissed someone or had sex to know if you are a lesbian or not, if you have and you liked it, that’s a positive sign that you might be a lesbian. It is especially a good sign if when you’re kissing you feel a desire to go further than just kissing.
Roxie and Trixie are two lesbian bullies and Muffy is a born victim. The three of them have been selected by Joyce for her latest broadcast production, A Night of Dirty Competition. The event is a triple threat match and right from the opening bell, Muffy assumes her eponymous role as victim.
Roxie and Trixie gang up on Muffy and put her through her paces. Taking tremendous punishment at the two bullies hands. She is punched, pulled, stripped, and stomped on. And when the two bullies tire of roughing her up, she is left nude and unconscious following a brutal pile driver.
Roxie and Trixie are both anxious to win the match and tear into each other, forgetting that one of them has to pin poor Muffy to win. Roxie and Trixie go hammer and tong, with all thoughts of Muffy forgotten for the time being.
In a spectacular turn of events, the two rough lesbians pummel each other to near unconsciousness leaving Joyce and the viewer wondering if there will actually be a winner of this awesomely dirty competition. The ending leaves Joyce and the audience surprised and breathless.
Actress Sophie Turner, of X-Men and Game of Thrones fame, has put up an inclusive post for Pride Month that has led some fans to celebrate her coming out as bisexual. But it isn’t exactly a coming-out, nor is it the first time she’s addressed the matter.
Turner’s Instagram Story post, which went up this week, includes “Bi Pride” and “Straight Pride” stickers, plus the words “time isn’t straight and neither am I.” Many fans are thrilled with the post and see it as a revelation.
But Turner hasn’t confirmed how she identifies, and in 2019, in a Rolling Stone interview timed to the Game of Thrones finale, she discussed her attraction to both men and women without choosing to identify her sexuality in a particular way (and everyone has the right to choose an identifier — or not).
She was about to marry Joe Jonas of the Jonas Brothers, and she said she knew she was ready despite her youth. “I was fully preparing myself to be single for the rest of my life,” she said. “I think once you’ve found the right person, you just know. I feel like I’m much older a soul than I am in age. I feel like I’ve lived enough life to know. I’ve met enough guys to know — I’ve met enough girls to know.”
She added, “Everyone experiments. It’s part of growing up. I love a soul, not a gender.”
So Turner could be bi, pan, fluid, not straight, or whatever, and she’s a strong supporter of the LGBTQ+ community at any rate.
Turner’s career is continuing to thrive. She was recently cast in the HBO Max series The Staircase, about Michael Peterson, a novelist who was accused of killing his wife, Kathleen, in 2001. The real-life story has been the subject of a docuseries of the same name on Netflix, and HBO Max will dramatize it.
Turner has been cast as Margaret Ratliff, one of Michael Peterson’s adopted daughters, Variety reports. Colin Firth will play Michael Peterson and Toni Collette will portray Kathleen. Others in the cast include Parker Posey, Juliette Binoche, and Rosemarie DeWitt.
Elizabeth Jansen and her fiancé are station at the same naval base, but Jack unfortunately gets his transfer orders leaving his girl Beth behind. The day his ships out he introduces Beth to his best friend, Vincent and asks Vincent to keep watch over her in his absence. Beth is flattered but hardly thinks it necessary.
Soon after Jack ships out, Kesha, a suspected lesbian puts a full court press on trying to get Beth to sleep with her. Beth is flattered but not gay so she brushes the advances off. With Jack being gone and Beth’s love life all but nonexistant, Kesha catches Beth in a weak moment. The black lesbian tenderly seduces Jack’s fiancée.
Beth, realizing she is none the worse for the wear, figures that now that Kesha has had her way, the thrill will be gone and she will leave Beth alone. Beth figured wrong, and Kesha, now a changed woman, barges in to Beth’s room the next night and forces herself on Beth and begins to introduce her the roughest kind of lesbian sex imaginable.
Beth tries to tell another female, Maggie, in her barracks of her problem but she tells Beth not to worry it will all work out. The the rough sex continues and there seems to be no limit to the cruelty Kesha is capable of. Several of her sexual advances has left Beth bruised, battered, and unconscious. When Beth wakes from her latest assault, she finds that her friend Maggie, and another female seaman have been watching and photographing Kesha and Beth as blackmail.
A frantic Beth is at her wits end, and seemingly no where to go without getting kicked out of the Navy remembers Jack’s friend. Can he even help?
Crystal asks her straight girlfriend Sydney to attend an underground catfight competition, Sydney is reluctant to go but Crystal persuades her into accepting when she tells her of the star attraction on the contests is a girl called the Viper. Crystal tells her seeing Viper in action is worth the price of admission
Totally unaware of what to expect, Sydney goes with an open mind and decides to try and enjoy the time with her friend. The first two contests are entertaining and Sydney is surprised she is not turned off by the exhibition. And the star attraction hasn’t even performed yet.
When Viper finally enters the ring, what Sydney discovers is that the wrestler Viper is not give that name without reason. Prior to the match she displays her prized weapon as she parades around the ring. It’s an extremely long slit tongue that she can lick her eyebrows with. She also learns that Viper uses her tongue to her advantage to terrorize her hapless opponents.
Lottery winner, Joyce calls together all her college acquaintances and offers them a chance to participate in the filming of an erotic lesbian wrestling competition. She funds a sizable purse for the tournament and finds eight of the best candidates for her production.
She doesn’t want it to be a slick production so she holds the tournament in her parents home while they are away for a long weekend. While the tournament will be called a wrestling contest, there will be no rules, and the only way to win is to pin your opponent, by any means available.
The tournament has three rounds, two preliminary rounds and a final. The sentimental favorite Irene is matched against the teen witch Anne. It is back and forth and the end is in doubt until the very end when one girl is erotically pinned ending a climactic struggle.
Why do boundaries matter in dating? How can we use them to help us be our best self?
Why do boundaries matter in dating? How can we use them to help us be our best self?
You sleep with her on the first date. You commit to a relationship before you really know each other. You move in together before you’ve seen each other in different situations. You date more than one person but don’t tell either of them. You flirt with your ex. You make out with a friend.
Most of us have done at least one thing that illustrates poor boundaries in dating relationships. As a reformed no-boundary-a-holic, I look back and recognize that I didn’t know I had poor boundaries in dating. I didn’t even know what a boundary was.
A boundary is the line that differentiates you from someone else. In dating, it’s the practice of holding that line so that circumstances or another person don’t sway you from aligning your values, your words, and your actions. Improving my ability to hold my boundaries was the number one habit that turned my dating life around. The biggest benefit is having trust in myself to know I’ll do what I say.
For example, before I developed good boundaries, I said I would only have sex when I was in love. Then, either because of immaturity, loneliness, or alcohol, I gave that value right away by sleeping with women on the first couple of dates. I said I was independent, social, and driven, and yet I often lost myself in relationships.
I am not saying that sleeping together on a first date is wrong. I am saying that for me, sleeping with someone on a first date when I made a promise to myself that I wouldn’t is incongruent. It’s this incongruence that reveals my boundary violation. I had to ask myself: What is it about this situation (being on a date with a hot girl, being in a long term relationship, etc.) that causes me to compromise my own values?
When my worst boundary-crashing relationship crumbled around me, I took a step back and looked at my own role and habits when it comes to boundaries. I realized that practicing good boundaries in dating means going through the stages of dating rather than skipping over the main getting to know each other stage.
I began to get in touch with what was really important to me and consider how I could create a boundary that protected that value. Here I share three values and how I lined them up with boundaries to be more congruent.
Value: Getting to know someone to see if we’re compatible before falling in love
The aligning boundary to this value was to only have sex once I was in a monogamous relationship. What holding this boundary meant was I had to place really getting to know a woman over time above anything that would sway me to have sex.
Value: Maintaining my own hobbies, friends, and voice when in a relationship
The aligning boundary to this value was to continue to workout, see friends at least twice a week, and identify and communicate my feelings. What holding this boundary meant was that I had to take responsibility for keeping my schedule my own, even when trying to integrate it with someone else’s. It also meant speaking up on my own behalf, and saying how I feel without worrying about what the other person thought.
Value: Being completely honest to myself and to women I date
The aligning boundary was being honest with myself about my interest in a woman and practice being honest with women about where I’m at, if I’m dating other people, etc. Holding this boundary meant I had to get real with myself about why I was going out on a date. If it was because of boredom, loneliness, complicated feelings about my ex, then I wouldn’t go. I would only go if I was interested in the woman and wanted to get to know her better to see if we were compatible. This sounds so totally obvious, but the truth is, too often I went out for the wrong reasons.
Practicing good boundaries is a game changer. For me, getting my values in line with boundaries that support them – that’s the girl I want to be as I brave the trenches of lesbian dating. That’s the girl whose side I want to be on whole-heartedly.
A brash American teenager, Jeri Halston, takes the summer to backpack through Europe starting in Britain where she encounters a medieval priory and decides to tour the facility. Her irreverent attitude from the onset brings the wrath of the Priory down on her, an experience she won’t soon forget.
Wandering into a medieval English priory, Jeri Halston and her brash and abrasive attitude get her in bad with the residents. She is removed from the guided tour they have provided her and brought before an irate sacristan, who makes it her mission to rid the cocky teen of her attitude and maybe teach her some humility.
The sacristan, the caretaker of the priory, uses this opportunity to provide a lesson and to relieve herself of some pent up sexual tension due to the long, lonely nights in the deathly silent structure.
The sacristan, give the teen a thorough going over, from stem to stern and soon had both woman and the teen on fire with sexual need. The teen is as the older woman’s mercy and it is obvious the sacristan plans to take care of her own needs first, which she does with a hot passion the likes of which the young girl has never experienced.
When the sacristan has sated her lust, the brash teen believes that is the end of the woman’s lesson. But Jeri is wrong, so wrong because the sacristan next brings other members of the priory in to partake of the fruits of her latest prey. An offer the others can hardly resist, and proceed with alacrity and leave the poor girl breathless and wanting more.