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Kathy Belge is a writer and coauthor of Lipstick & Dipstick’s Essential Guide to Lesbian Relationships and Queer: The Ultimate LGBT Guide for Teens.
Updated September 25, 2017
What are some signs you might be a lesbian? Is there a test to see if you are a lesbian or not? When you are questioning your sexuality and wondering if you are a lesbian or not, you may be hoping there are certain signs that will help you figure it out. Although this is not a sure-fire test, if you experience three or more of these eight signs, you might be a lesbian. It’s worth investigating further.
These are a few signs that you might be a lesbian or bisexual. Of course, there is no 100% sure way to tell. Discovering your sexual orientation takes time and self-exploration. Be patient with yourself and give yourself the time you need to figure it out.01of 08
When You’re On a Date with a Guy, You’re Thinking About Your Female Best Friend
When you’re on a date with a guy, you’re thinking about how you can’t wait until it’s over so you can call your BFF–Not to tell her about the date, but to hear her voice and listen to how her day was. And then to make a plan to see her soon. All of this before you plan a second date with the dude.https://b4f1b75a1e41977cd1a4cbda72cb1207.safeframe.googlesyndication.com/safeframe/1-0-38/html/container.html02of 08
Your Eyes are Drawn to Women in Movies
When you watch movies, your eyes are drawn to the female lead and not the hunky male. You can’t help noticing how beautiful she is and you watch the movie over and over just to see that one moment where the camera closes in on her slightly parted lips and all you can think about is kissing them.https://b4f1b75a1e41977cd1a4cbda72cb1207.safeframe.googlesyndication.com/safeframe/1-0-38/html/container.html03of 08
You See Women Everywhere
When you’re out on the town or at the mall, you tend to notice girls first and eventually you notice that there’s a man there too. You do this before you even think. It’s an instinct.https://b4f1b75a1e41977cd1a4cbda72cb1207.safeframe.googlesyndication.com/safeframe/1-0-38/html/container.html04of 08
Most of Your Friends Are Women
You seek out girls and women for friendships, conversations, support, and fun. All of your best friends are women, except maybe a few sensitive or gay men.05of 08
You’ve Questioned Your Sexuality
You’ve asked yourself “Am I a lesbian?” “Am I gay?” “Am I bisexual?” If you’re asking yourself these questions, it’s a sign that you could be lesbian or bisexual. People who are not attracted to the same sex don’t tend to ask themselves if they are gay or not.06of 08
You’ve Fallen in Love with a Woman
You’ve had a relationship with a woman and it was great. It’s over now and so you don’t know if it was a one-off thing or if you’re a lesbian for real. If you’ve had one relationship with a woman, chances are you have the capability to fall in love with a woman again, even if you’ve dated men before or since.07of 08
Lesbian Love Stories Get to You
You get tingly feelings when you read lesbian romance or watch lesbian romantic movies. When you watch a romantic movie or read a lesbian romance novel, you feel something deep inside when the couple kisses for the first time. You imagine yourself in a similar situation and it makes you feel happy and good inside. You have a sense of longing that echoes that of the heroines of the romance.08of 08
You’ve Kissed a Girl and You Liked It.
Although you don’t need to have kissed someone or had sex to know if you are a lesbian or not, if you have and you liked it, that’s a positive sign that you might be a lesbian. It is especially a good sign if when you’re kissing you feel a desire to go further than just kissing.